Tuesday, 20 March 2018

Oh My God! This divorce story will shock you beyond your wildest imagination

This divorce story will leave you shocked (YouTube/NBA )

          In the Nigerian society, divorce cases are plenty but some of them are shocking to say the very least. This divorce story you about to read is probably the most shocking thing you will read.

 The Twitter handle Jaruma Magazine,  tweeted a divorce story from a woman who identifies herself as Sadiya Lawal on Friday, March 16, 2018.

 The lady question narrates how she fell in love with her ex-husband at first sight. Her story started off as fairy tale but quickly descended into a horror story.
"MY NAME IS SADIYA LAWAL. I AM 29 YEARS OLD. I AM FROM BAUCHI STATE. I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE MY DIVORCE DIARIES WITH YOU.

 For me, it was love at first and Hamisu was the one.

 I met my husband when I was a Corper. I was serving in Abuja at the time. It was a beautiful time in my life and I quickly fell in love with the tall handsome charming stranger I met at Dunes Centre. His name was Hamisu Mohammed. It was love at first sight.

 I was at the restaurant when he walked towards the aisles. Our eyes met for a moment and that was it. It felt like electricity and my heart was almost beating out of my chest when he smiled and started walking towards me.

 I tried to look away but his pull was too magnetic and I found myself smiling back at him.

 ‘Hello lady, you look like you are having a good time’ he said and my heart stopped for a minute as all my senses concentrated on listening to him.

 I just kept smiling like a fool as he kept smiling back. I don’t even remember what my reply was. We ended up sitting down and talking for like 3 hours that day. The rest, as they say, is history.

 A year after that fateful meeting we got married. It was a most beautiful day that I will cherish forever. I was so in love with him, he was everything.

 As any typical northern girl, I excitedly prepared for my wedding night with a lot of gyaran jiki and Kayan Mata.

 The weeks before my wedding were filled with all sorts of skin treatments, consumption of aphrodisiacs and vaginal steaming all in anticipation of the big night. I looked forward to consummating our love on that special night.

 On that special night, when all the glitz and glam of the wedding was done, it was just the two of us. I was so nervous and excited but Hamisu did not look interested. We talked for a while and then he fell asleep.

 Yes! My husband fell asleep on our first night. I did not know what do, whether to wake him up or to allow him sleep. I couldn’t hold myself I had to wake him up.

 ‘Honey, I don’t think we should be sleeping tonight. It is our first night, it is the Sunnah....’

 He cut me off with a kiss and we made out for a while; then he told me he couldn’t do anything that night because he was so tired from the activities of the wedding. Fair enough... so we slept off.

 Two weeks later we were still sleeping together...that is we were only sleeping. At this point, I became fed up. No matter how hard I tried to get him in the mood my husband did not seem interested in making me a woman. He would rather go to sleep.

 Three months after my wedding and I was still a virgin. My husband was not interested in that part of our marriage though he was a wonderful husband in other areas.

 He was very supportive of my career, he took care of me, he cooked and cleaned up after himself, he made me laugh, he was affectionate but that was the end of it... after a while, I gave up trying.

 There were a lot of rumours swirling around our social circles about my husband and his sexual preferences, but every single time he assured me he was working on being a lover I would cherish... eventually he always said.

 The months were followed by a year then 2 years then 3 years and still our marriage remained unconsummated. I did not know what to do next. Friends told me to try and get his attention, to be uninhibited to be sexy blah blah blah.

 I was sick and tired of hearing it was up to me to get my own husband to fulfil my marital rights. I was reaching my breaking point.

 It all became worse with the pressure and questions from our families about why we had not had children yet. How could we have children when we were living like roommates instead of husband and wife?

 I confronted him and he told me he had been molested as a boy and he was working on being sexual for me. My heart went out to him and I left it at that, I prayed for him every day, to overcome his experience.

 One day I went to work and suddenly my period came so I had to rush back home to clean up; as I lived just fifteen minutes away from my office. I walked into my living room to find my husband being sodomised by another man who was on top of him.

 He had sweat beads on his face and his eyes were closed. They did not hear me open the door; neither did they notice me standing directly opposite them. Hamisu opened his eyes. He looked at me and I looked at him.

 He pushed the man off him and that is when I recognised who he was. The man that was sodomising my husband was my father.

 What the hell was my father doing here? With my husband?

 I ran to the kitchen and took my largest knife. The rage inside me was like red hot lava in a volcano and it was threatening to erupt and consume all of us. The betrayal! He would not touch me but he could sleep with my father! 

 I was confused about my father, No maybe my mind was playing tricks on me... my father was gone by the time I returned from the kitchen.

 Hamisu was naked and struggling to wear his trousers when I stabbed him, I missed and a chase ensued. I wanted to send him to hell where he belonged.

 Finally, I got his hand; the knife sliced through skin and flesh and came out with blood spraying everywhere staining the white carpet. He groaned in pain: Sadiya!

 I raised the knife again; I wanted to stab him in his heart, just like he had done to me. I wanted to damage him with all the rage inside me.

 He was begging me and I was charging towards him to finish him off when I tripped and fell; the knife slipped away from my hand and in that moment the powerlessness of my situation hit me.

 What could I really do? Who would even believe me? What type of daughter would I be to accuse my father of homosexuality? How could I face my mother with the news that my father and my husband were lovers? Inna Lillahi what could I really do in this situation.

 I broke down; I just crouched and broke down in tears, the blood from my period further staining my white carpet... I did not care, let the carpet stain I thought- as I watched it turn a dirty red colour...

 He crawled towards me, ‘Sadiya I am sorry’ was all he kept saying. I had so many things I wanted to say to him but I just could not open my mouth. It was as if the weight in my heart had pulled my mouth shut. I heard him talk.

 He said he had always been a bottom (other men did it to him), since his days in secondary school. He said a senior boy had taught him and somehow it had become his habit. He said he preferred that to being with a woman.
‘I really do love you Sadiya, just not in that way you know! When we met you accepted me, without any questions. I love you but I just could not be a lover to you. And I saw that you liked being married to me. I always assumed you knew...

 This was a mistake, it will never happen again. Your father is the senior boy who first molested me back in secondary school. I had not seen him since secondary school until the day I went to greet him before we got married. We rekindled our relationship and... .’

 I slapped his dirty mouth. How dare he? Three years in a sex less marriage and he had the audacity to tell me he assumed I knew?

 Why would a woman assume her husband was a perverted homosexual pig? Why? Why did he marry me? He just used me to kill the rumours ko? Shege tsinnanne!

 He continued to talk but I went to the bathroom and cleaned myself up."
You can continue reading the story from the tweet below.









 Leading LGBT rights activist Bisi Alimi has reacted to the sad divorce story.


Source: PulseNG 
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